My Gift of Trauma: How Childhood Abandonment Shaped Me

You write ” I didn’t get that being abandoned by a caregiver was only sort of about me” and yet it wasn’t and there is a not surely missing here. To me this illustrates how very difficult it is to accept how vulnerable we all are and our need to perhaps become somehow active in blaming….even ourselves. Thanks for posting.

Leon's Existential Cafe

If trauma can become a gift, first understanding it is imperative.

Left on her own, with no one to look after her, Annie wonders what she’s done wrong. Why don’t her parents care enough about her to check in? She stares at the empty floors lined with barren walls, symbolizing the vast space inside of her tiny heart. Trying to make sense of her predicament, Annie reasons that she must have been a bad girl. For if she were different, she’d be loved. In her book, The Unexpected Gift of Trauma, Dr. Edith Shiro argues, “The trauma itself comes not from the event, but from how we interpret the event, the resources we have to deal with it, and the way we process it. Our response is connected to the meaning we make of the experience we have, but it’s not necessarily proportional to the intensity of that experience.”

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