For some, asking for help feels like a threat; the need to do so invariably makes them feel inferior. “Why should I need to ask?” “You should already know!” In the game of emotional hot potato, we blame our partners for feeling vulnerable, more precisely, for feeling inferior. While something like asking for help or […]
Obsessed with Control: Addressing Perfectionism and Codependence
Chronic defensiveness, like chronic avoidance, isn’t a victimless crime. In our self-protected cocoons, sheltering us from the exaggerated slings and arrows of existence, we often fail to note how our armors scar our opponents – the ones we love. For the fragile psyche, the pangs of emotional harm, and the accompanying catastrophic predictions, create an […]
The Therapist’s Shame: Understanding Projective Identification and Countertransference
From Torment to Healing Sometimes when I’m struggling with my mental illness, I forget how beneficial it could be for others to know my personal journey a bit more. Although therapy is an excellent resource, there are still many hours to get by when not in session. With that being said, coping can be challenging, […]
Coping with Borderline Personality Disorder
Why am I trudging along beside this ominous figure?
Tramp…….tramp…….tramp
negotiating tilting wet clumps over these empty distant fields
without a definite horizon.
It must be time to quit this incessant marshy march beside this ogre
in his enormous grey greatcoat.
Affentempo.
Clearly he is going nowhere.
Him and his constant chiding and bullying.
Go away.
Time for us to wake up!
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